Actually, this is from one of my older entries...but something which I still find relevant.
I finally found the piece of writing that I had been meaning to talk about in my blog. Some sharp wit has captured the very essence as to why we are facing so much problems with today's generation.
HOW TO RUIN YOUR CHILD
1. Begin from infancy to give your child everything he wants. This way he will grow up to think that the world owes him a living. [I guess that explains when asked to erase the whiteboard, the child turns and asks the teacher, "How much will you pay me?"
2. When he picks up bad words, laugh at him. It will encourage him to pick up cuter phrases that will blow the top off his head later. [mind you, the same thing happens when a 'cute kid' learns to answer back, and parents merely laugh...]
3. Never give him any spiritual training. Wait until he is 21 and let him decide for himself.[do you think they'll pick up good values from the internet?!!puhlez]
4. Avoid the use of the word “wrong.” It may develop a guilt complex. This will condition him later, when he is arrested for stealing a car, that society is against him and he is being persecuted. {ya...poor, poor Ah Boy...you took someone's things because mummy forgot to buy it for you...Don't you people see how traumatised he is?]
5. Pick up anything he leaves lying around, books, shoes, clothing, and whatever. Do everything for him so he will be experienced in throwing the responsibility onto others. [oh..no wait...it's not your job either...It's the Maid's!!!]
6. Let him read any printed matter he can get his hands on. Be careful that the drinking glasses and silverware are sterilized and that your house is nice but let his mind feed on garbage.[er...karma sutra is a piece of literary work, you know... My boi-boi stays up late in front of the pc each night so that he can do research...}
7. Quarrel frequently in the presence of children, then they won’t be too shocked when the home is broken up. [scream, shout, and hurl insults as well...to show them that adults are just as childish as them]
8. Give the child all the spending money he wants. Never let him earn his own. Why should he have things as tough as you had them. [$$$$ = Love ?]
9. Satisfy his every craving for food, drink and comfort. See that every desire is gratified. Denial may later lead to harmful frustrations. [absolutely nothing but the very best money can buy...never mind...fat-fat..cute-cute]
10. Take his part against the neighbors, the teachers, the policemen and the preacher. They are prejudiced against your baby. [ya..the teachers is just a 'better-paid babysitter. how dare they say that my baby is so naughty outside...]
11. When he gets into real trouble, apologize for yourself by saying, “I never could do anything with him anyway.”[and start pointing fingers at everyone...from the maid to the teacher to the bus driver...and the neighbour and the kid next door and....]
12. Prepare for a life of grief. You’re in for it. [You reap what you sow].
Of course my comments are made tongue in cheek. And somehow, I think I have written something like this before...but I think there is no harm remembering what can happen when parents do not realise that their overprotectiveness and overindulgence can bring more harm than good.
Today, I learnt to hold my tongue ...as I try to put myself in the position of my students. Why are some of them behaving in some wild, outrageous and challenging ways?
- because they were never really taught the correct way to behave
- because they have lost hope in themselves and the adults around them
-because they are so vulnerable that the best way to protect themselves is like the procupine...hurt others before others hurt you.
I am not the best parent in the world...and is not like to be the best...but I learn from my mistakes...and will try my best not to ruin my children.
Thursday, May 8, 2008
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