"Your Actions Speak So Loudly..."

I love this phrase this I want to borrow from Maxwell's book, "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect".  In it there is a sub-heading " Your Actions Speak So Loudly, I Can't Hear Your Words".  Doesn't this hit the nail on the head?

In one of my earlier entries, I think I have talked about how sometimes we do not need words to convey our thoughts and emotions.  The looks on our faces, our reactions, gestures and mannerisms are somehow able to mirror what is going through our hearts and heads.  Unless we have schooled ourselves to be good actors, or have learned to put on masks and adopt poker faces, generally, our body can be the true giveaways.

People can say plenty of things.  We all know that there some who can come up with all sorts of rhetoric.  But while people can hear what we say, they can also feel our attitude...The power of non-verbal cues are also so strong that even without words, the more sensitive and perceptive ones can pick up the silence nuances and hidden messages.  Somehow, our body does not lie, even though we can, with our mouths.  That is the general principal of how the lie detector test works.

So what is the whole point today?
Perhaps it is a reminder to myself, to be careful not to send 'mixed signals' to whoever I am speaking to.  Very often, there is where the source of misunderstanding comes from.  I have people telling me that I should not 'read too much' into certain things that are written and said...but you cannot help but be judged from the way people perceive you.

I know that many of my students will not remember exactly what I have blabbed on in class...even fewer still may remember the techniques.  But I sure hope that they will remember the day when a connection is made...from me to them, and them to me...when what I said really meant something, when they understood...and that I had been sincere with them in the encounter.

..and to AB...if you read this:
I can read and 'hear' your message loud.
But clearly?...I doubt so.
Sometimes we keep repeating certain things...as if to convince others,
when in fact, what we do, is really to convince our own self.
Do what you must...do what you already think is right.
But just be prepared...for one day
The dam will burst....Take care.