I have been reading Dr Phil McGraw's book "Real Life". I still like John Maxwell a lot better, but while waiting for his new book to be out, I took to reading the former. Dr Phil also makes a lot of sense, but he lacks that 'oomph-up-and-go rah rah' effect as compared to Maxwell...but that is just my opinion.
What caught my attention in the book was the section where he summarises the factors that will trigger the most stress in our lives....and those factors are likely to wreck havoc and pain, and put us through emotional turmoil. Here is an extract of the common 7 days that almost everyone goes through
a) The Day the Heart is Shattered:
It is a day when you lose something or someone of great value, and in the process, your heart is broken and can never be fixed as a whole again. The sense of loss is so great that it brings grief and gripping pain.
b) The Day you realise you have Lived your life as a Sellout
This is a day when you lose your value as a person. You know you are living without courage and integrity, without honour and dignity. It is when you suffer a sense that you have let yourself down. (I guess some people will take a long time to realise this...and even if they do, it is too late for regrets.)
c) The Day you realise you are in Way over your Head
This is meltdown day - when you realise that you have lost control, and not able to meet the most challenging of demands. You are simply overwhelmed, and would just wish that the earth would open up and swallow you whole. ( I understand this...it's when I want to crawl into my bed, pull the covers over my head, and not wake up)
d) The Day the Body breaks down.
Most of the time, the body signals that there is something not quite right with us. The physical being reacts more readily to stress, and when yet we tend to ignore the symptoms. But when it does...the body is capable of wear and tear. The day that we are stricken with a serious illness, or when someone we love is seriously hurt, we have to be prepared to face this reality.
e) The Day the Mind breaks down
This is a day when you realise and have to acknowledge that you or a loved one's mental and emotional functioning is in trouble. (enough said...I know...from grandparents who suffered from Alzheimer's, and my girl's depression)
f) The Day Addiction takes over
Drugs, Alcohol, and Gambling may seem to be the ones out in the open, but there are many more. When the obsession takes over your life, it can easily destroy it.
g) The Day you have Lost your Purpose and have no answer to the question "Why"
This is the challenge of finding meaning for your life. It deals not so much with who you are, but why you are. This is where you find that there is no sense to your existence...and you have lost your inner compass.
Well, I hope to be able to share more.
In a nutshell, what he is trying to tell us is that everyone faces problems and challenges. Life is truly no bed of roses, nor a smooth road for us to travel on. Life is NOT a success-only journey. We all will meet those 7 days at one point or another....and must learn how we can deal with them.
So for today:
So chin up and smile...and for me, Bismillahi Rahmaani Rahiim - In Allah, I trust.
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