I Want to hold Your Hand

I Want to Hold Your Hand
(random musing)

I think that besides air, water and food (in that order), the next basic human need is the sense of touch...by another human hand. Of course, this can happen in many forms; from a simple handshake to a warm embrace, we all can do much better when we make the connection with another human being.

When a baby is born, and all his Moro reflexes are activated, you will see him appear 'startled'. In our culture, babies are swathed and bundled snuggly - so that they feel safe and secure (though babies nowadays are left 'free'...no wonder these kids are so active and hyper). But watch babies, and how they are soothed by cuddles, and how the simple back rubs to 'burp' them calms them down.

We all know this feeling...the effect that the gentle, comforting touch has on us.
(I emphasise on the word 'gentle'...for some of you out there are laughing now, I know. How come a claustrophobic person like me speak so glowingly about the power of a touch when I am jumpy when people come to close?)

Maybe let me put this into my perspective.
In my religion, it is 'frowned upon' and not permissible for the opposite genders to touch as long as there are no blood ties. So I am not propogating that.

This is what I think we should reflect upon.
I am glad, that my children, still enjoy their hugs and occasional kisses on the forehead as signs of affection...that they 'salam' (kiss the hand) of their Mama before they leave, and as they come home...for I feel respected.

I am happy that my children do reach out for my hand when we walk around, and now, lead me to cross the road...and throw spontaneous hugs in their way of saying thank you...for I feel appreciated.

I am glad that my hubby make me hook my arm on his...and that, to this day, we still are able to hold hands in public...for I feel loved.

I am grateful that my parents still ruffle my head, or run a hand down my face...for I feel blessed.

And in school, I am glad that on occasions, I am able to place a comforting hand on a shoulder,a high-five with one who has achieved success, or even hold someone's hands as I watch the tears fall...for I feel useful.

Family does come first you know...the people who matter most in your life.
So if you have read this, and understood...go and affirm the people who mean so much with you with the power of a touch...

Can you high 5 me? (and tag if you are done?)