Ripples in the Water

I think the best illustration for the point I want to make today is this. Pick up a piece of stone and fling it into the water. It is called Stone Skimming. The test of your strength and perhaps skill, lies in the ability to make that stone 'jump' a few times before it finally sinks. But what I am interested in is the ripples in the water.

Physics can explain why the stone causes the rippling effect, and why the stone jumps. It has to do with weight,angles, buoyancy, equilibrium and exchange of both kinetic and potential energies. Physics however, is not quite my forte. I just want to transfer the analogy to something bigger.

At any point of our lives, we experience ripples (though for some, it seems like we are are constantly washed over by tsunamis instead). When a force, no matter how big or small, strikes at us, we feel the effects. Our sense of equilibrium is upset, and we continue to find our balance somehow...or else we will never be at ease.

Sometimes too, we are the ones who 'throw the stones'. We upset the calm. We are the ones who create the impetus for the change of state and create that chain reaction. Without a doubt, there is an impactful cause and effect relationship which cannot be avoided. What more, when that stone creates the multiplier effect.

How aware are we, of the consequences of our own actions? How much do we care about how others feel? More importantly...as the 'stone' or 'water'...what do we do when we find ourselves in this situation? (sorry to really stretch this analogy so much)

To my little adik who reads this:
I can fully empathise your situation. All you want is for the pond to be calm and still again. Yet someone keeps throwing the stones over and over again. For you, the effect is rather turbulent, and the ripples are gaining such momentum that the water will spill over the banks.

Perhaps, the only way now, to find an inner peace, is to stop more stones being flung. I know that will be a very difficult decision. I know you have been seeking for answers, and have realised that in life, there are a lot of things which cannot be answered, nor can we even come close to comprehend fully.

Have faith in God, and in yourself. Someone once said that "Faith is trusting in advance what will only make sense in reverse. Faith draws poison from every grief, takes the sting from every loss, and quenches the fire of every pain; and only faith can do it."

Do not lose your spirit. Whatever decision you make, I'll be around...whether beside to hold your hand...behind, to support...or ahead...to gently lead you.
I believe you will be able

To L:
I keep referring to you as the lost sheep...but then again, maybe you are not as 'lost' as I think you are. While my rationality is flummoxed by your decision, deep down, I admire the tenacity you display to go after what you really really really want.

You have showed me that when you truly believe, you will have something to live for.

To the person who reads this, and knows who you are:
I am going to stop throwing stones.

My intentions were sincere...for I had wanted to really 'shake you' so that yours will have a positive multiplier effect. Ripples can do a lot of good too. I had acted on faith, on a belief that I could somehow help you find the key to unlock your potential. It was not blind faith that prompted that decision; it was really made on an unwavering belief in you.

However, it seems that I am doing more harm than good.

And I guess, the ripples it created have both the backsplash, and backlash on me.
So as long as you feel the way you do right now, the albatross hangs on my back too. And it will be hung...as a symbol of ......failure.

I know you will never accept the apology...but I hope you will understand. Do also remember how the ripples in the other ponds all affect me. I get it left, right and centre...

Unlike with my little adik, where I know where to stand...I am really uncertain what to do now for I neither lead nor guide. Perhaps moving far behind would be best, at the moment...


To the rest:
The ripple in the water analogy is actually something quite beautiful. If we can a positive change in this world, we need to be the agent of change...in the right way.

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